Tuesday, November 5, 2013

So You May Think This Is Not Always the Most Ladylike Thing to DO....

This is from a facebook post of Brent’s, on my page ….  (As many know he doesn’t have his own and we do share everything.)

Such a great message. BP

                  “From the site:  Get your shit together, ladies. “

Comments from Facebook



"So accurate."

Ugh! My life! Living with his father's son!

"Add Norman to that mix. Try two years to get just a little job finished."


Well you know me, I always thought that a main bread-winner has a hard enough job. So, I followed my Mom's lead and did many of those honey-do jobs. It brought satisfaction and confidence. It wasn't so hard to put in a medicine cabinet, garage shelves, tile and many more. The best thing I learned from my parents is that is fun and the best when you can build things, fix things and repair things together. Many funny stories of my unsuccessful 'tries', but lots of my successes that have kept me content. Many lessons learned.  MP

My thought on this T-shirt....

I know most women joke about this post, but I want to stand up and say what a fine job my dear husband has done.  He is so thoughtful in so many ways, that I really don't have any reason to applaud this T-shirt.  And I hope no one thinks I am pointing fingers, I am not.   I just wish now I could help more as we both are getting a bit older and want to help to lighten his burden. 
In this day and age, we are all busy and stressed, but even now, more than ever, and men have so little time left over; between family, work obligations, church jobs and their extended family and community.  It is a wonder they don't break down.  They need our help wherever and whenever we can help.

During our years, I have found time within my schedule to help with the yard, string phone lines, punch holes in the walls, change a light fixture, or to fix some house problems.... I remember many times having to have Brent put back "ALL" the pieces in the vacuum or disposal when I took it apart to "fix" it and always had extra parts left over. I remember his face when he came home from the Elk hunt to find a fine set of wooden shelving along the back of the garage.  It made me happy to do this for him.
I think I was brought up differently than most girls my age.  I was always encouraged to be independent, in my thinking and in my ways.  I had great examples of these in my parents.  My Mom helped my Dad and my Dad helped my Mom with chores. 
I remember my Mom helping my Dad when he was putting a car transmission back together, finishing our basement.  I remember my Dad doing the dishes and cooking "Maylagin" soup.  They both worked out in the yard together, and it was never beneath either of them to help the other.  Maybe it was coming from a farming and country background or just smarter times. They were great examples to me of equality of the genders.  I will forever love them for that.

The idea that the house is the woman's realm and the hardware and outside is for the Man's domain....  I just don't get it.  We both have hands and brains and so we can all pitch in where ever needed. 

My Dad always put things away, returned things better than what he had borrowed and fixed thing quickly.  Maybe knowing waiting just makes it more work and possibly cost more or maybe if you wait too long it will have to be replaced.  I was taught it was better to do the same.  Tools last longer, clothes the same.
I was taught and I took pride on being able to make something out of nothing and to be frugal about it.   That also came from my Mom.  Sewing was fun and a necessity for us.  I had a great teacher in my Mom.  Some of my happiest moments have been seeing what I have created being put to good use or lighting up eyes of whomever got to wear my projects.  
I remember my Mom saying "Why do you always have time to fix something that you didn't do right in the first place?  Maybe it is just much better to do it right the first time."   I even used that thought as a topic and successful class that I taught at the User Conferences for my companies.  And I did get a great amount of good feedback on that thought.  Not new, but important to reiterate and bring to the fore front of business.  It applies to so many areas of life.  I, sadly, wish I could just do it more often.  

 Thoughts morphing on and beyond the topic.....

Sometimes, often, that perfectionism has caused me trouble, in not being able to get some things done fast enough for others and also to my brain.  It can be a problem on how you think of yourself, not good enough, not perfect, etc.  But the general ideal is surely worth some effort.  It has taken me a lifetime to really figure out an evening of the scale of perfection and reality.
I know within my self it has caused me many troubled days and nights.  I can handle it better now, but what really worries me is projecting it onto those I love.  Creating feelings of too high of an expectancy and acceptance from me.  But most of that is really only a parent trying to teach setting high goals.  Reaching for the stars, as they say.
The most important people in your life are the ones you try to help, for good or unintentionally influencing negatively.  Because I am NOT perfect and mostly a bigger part of  me is the imperfect human who wants to be better.  I have had a lifetime goal to make some difference in the world, while I am here.  I hope they will understand this with a big grain of salt of understanding and forgiveness, if it has caused them any harm.    

We are only imperfect humans, living in an imperfect world, striving to do and be better.

I am grateful for my parents and all of the principles they taught me.  And also from Brent's family and all they have added to my life.  All of our families have taught us so much goodness.  I am so blessed.

P.S.  It is good that no one really reads my blogs anymore, I think I put too many private thought into my blogs.

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Mary's Testimony

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Sister Monson, sweetheart of our prophet passed away this week.  Aunt LeAnne suggest that Mary make one of her beautiful handmade cards to send, from our family.  Mary came up with the following to put into the card:

"Each soul leaves a legacy of love...
Each memory a bridge to comfort and
connect one heart to another, forever."


No matter how dear the loss, it is such a
great comfort to know that we will see
and be with our family  again.

And I sing in my heart and soul...

"Oh, sweet the joy this sentence gives:
I Know That My Redeemer Lives".

The bottom half was composed by my sweetheart.  Surely it represents Mary's sweet simple testimony.  Mary loves her family and loves her Savior. 

Sunday, May 5, 2013

Brent's 64th Birthday Party

Well, what a great beautiful, perfect, Spring day!   Cinco de Mayo! 
 . . . . Oops, I mean Brent's 64th Birthday!   What a fun day was had by all!  The REAL reason for the big celebration on May 5th.  

Family came over and we shared ribs for dinner before the big flaming blow-out. I had to tone it down a bit, so the Fire Marshall wouldn't close the joint down.
We had his favorite cake and according to him, "The only REAL cake",  Angel Food cake and topped it withe some ouooey, gooey icing (Divinity, White Mountain or sometimes it is called 7 minute icing).   We also had ice cream in his other favorite flavor, Vanilla.  BTW: there was some other chocolate mint icy, creamy, cold stuff too.

He was his Mother's Mothers Day present the year he was born and he brings that beautiful "Spring" into our lives every day of the year. 
He comes by his nickname of Tigger naturally, because as he says to me that he is "Basically LOVEABLE"   And that is so true.
Happy,  joyous and bouncy, bouncy, hardworking, and exuberant; that is Brent in a nutshell.  Speaking of nutshells, yep, he is even a bit like a squirrel, or rather leaves food droppings when he eats, sometimes it's on the chair or maybe down the front of his shirt.  It's just part of his glorious trademark! 

He is the oldest kid I know!  And that is a good thing, no maybe the best thing!
He loves to sing and I love his energy and excitement when he does.  In fact he always puts that HaPpY extra into all he does, whether it is riding his tractor, mowing the lawn, in his bib-overalls and straw hat, playing sports, walking Daisy in the very early morning or his favorite, playing with the Grandkidlets.   He just adds so much more into all of the lives, of the people he knows.  And those are just a few of the reasons we all love him so!

Happiest of Birthday Years to you, my dear, sweetheart! 


Thursday, May 2, 2013

Brent's Beatle Birthday

Sunday is  Brent’s  64th  Birthday
 and all he wants is 
cake and ice cream. 

Bring your fire extinguishers, 
because..... the big flamelights off at 6:00 ’ish 
Please come any time you can.   
He would love to see you all.

When I get older losing my hair,
Many years from now,
Will you still be sending me a valentine
Birthday greetings bottle of wine?

If I'd been out till quarter to three
Would you lock the door,
Will you still need me, will you still feed me,
When I'm sixty-four?   

oo oo oo oo oo oo oo oooo 

You'll be older too, (ah ah ah ah ah)
And if you say the word,
I could stay with you.

I could be handy mending a fuse
When your lights have gone.
You can knit a sweater by the fireside
Sunday mornings go for a ride.

Doing the garden, digging the weeds,
Who could ask for more?
Will you still need me, will you still feed me,
When I'm sixty-four?

Every summer we can rent a cottage
In the Isle of Wight, if it's not too dear
We shall scrimp and save
Grandchildren on your knee
Vera, Chuck, and Dave

Send me a postcard, drop me a line,
Stating point of view.
Indicate precisely what you mean to say
Yours sincerely, Wasting Away.

Give me your answer, fill in a form
Mine for evermore
Will you still need me, will you still feed me,
When I'm sixty-four?

Happy Birthday!!!! 
 I still need you, mine forever more!!!!  
You will never loose you hair and it wouldn't matter any how!
What a great man and so glad he is CELEBRATING his 
64th Birthday on Sunday!   
He is the light and love of my life, then, now, 
always and forever, eternally everlasting !

This guy plays it beautifully on his guitar.

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

The Most Honest 3 Minutes In TV History

I LOVE our Country!!! 

These 3 minutes are so thought provoking, loved it the first time I saw it on the TV show Newsroom and is even more true as each day goes by.. 

Wishful thinking is that our Senators, Representatives, nationally and locally, would remember why we are Americans and drop all the posturing, and become statesmen and work together to make the US what it is meant to be.   And our United States initials stand for US, yes, all of US, the United States of America. 

This same type of reality needs to go to our children while they are growing up to help them reach for the stars with humility and to work hard to succeed!
Love this TV series. 

The Most Honest Three Minutes In Television History